Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

[cbtdad]

I'll tell you something my IC told me. NO MORE BOOKS!
A lot of these books are great. DB, DR, 5 LL, etc....
But when you begin to go from book to book you are searching for the magic pill. There is no magic pill. One thing every single book says is Give your spouse space and work on yourself. It is the only thing you can control.
Seriously SM, you are going to drive yourself mad. You have to put the focus 100% on you until your can control your thoughts a little bit better.

You can try and think all you want about what your wife is feeling or thinking, but in reality you have no clue. Why drive yourself mad over it?
Even if she tells you what she is thinking, it doesn't mean she is telling you the truth. Once again, you can't control that.
SM, if you don't completely focus on yourself right now, I will give you one absolute. If she does come back and want to reconcile, it won't work because you won't ever trust her because you will always be looking over you me shoulder because you don't feel good about you.
It's about YOU!! Detach and be the best man you can be