What I saw wasn't in the steps of the plan, it was the way your words came across...
I'm not much of a "do this" or "say this" in this situation kind of guy. Others here are much better with that. And I don't want to impede the path that you are on now....
If anything, just make sure you are intentions are in the right place.
And that you aren't letting anger rule your decisions.
You need to explain your boundaries calmly, so that you are heard clearly. You need to be firm, yet loving, and absolute with your decisions.
I.E. I have decided that I will no longer fund your outings
Typically, when a boundary is laid out, it is out of fear, and done incorrectly, and the person is not able, or willing to enforce them, which is the most important part....
In order to be willing to enforce them, you have to be ready to live with the consequence that comes with enforcing it, and to do that....
