You guys are all right - in retrospect I was digging - because I feel lied to. Not that it makes it any better.
But why would that affect your attitude? Michele talks in DR about acting "as if" everything is fine even when it isn't. Be upbeat, positive, happy, independent, strong! Your attitude should be that you don't care whether he's lying or not, because you are going to be OK with or without him. So if he starts pushing your buttons, don't engage! Just act "as if" It takes practice, but once you start doing it and see how much better it makes you feel to remain upbeat rather than being drawn into yet another fight, you'll want to keep it up!
It takes practice, but once you start doing it and see how much better it makes you feel to remain upbeat rather than being drawn into yet another fight, you'll want to keep it up!