Time For Me (Part 2)

[cat04]

Thanks Cat and I agree that something I need to work on is acting out of a clear and conscious headspace. I let things fester in the past and never acted so now I feel like I need to address everything immediately. This doesn't always work for obvious reasons; I'm still working to make these changes natural and until then the enemy to that are my emotions. What I need to do is take a step back when something gets me going and think about it and my response before addressing it. I know what to do, the doing it in the heat of the moment is where I still occasionally slip up. I hear what you're saying!

Good that you know what to do and hear what I'm saying because I won't be so nice next time

Feelings, are never wrong. They are what they are.

Funny, I never really thought about it that way. I think I've been kind of ashamed for having feelings in past. I'm a guy, my family is all blue collar, no dad around so felt like I needed to be tougher, etc... I secretly wondered what was wrong with me. Normal guys don't have feelings right... I now know how incorrect that was. Still interesting that I never really processed it before that feelings aren't wrong. My W is also pretty emotionless from her upbringing so with all that I kind of did think my having feelings was wrong.

NO NO NO!!!

I never said having feelings is wrong...I don't care who you are, the only people who don't have feelings are sociopaths (actually part of the diagnosis) and those people are few and far between thank God...

I said your feelings (or anyone's) regarding any given situation are never wrong. It may not be what other people feel about the same thing, or how people think you SHOULD feel, but they are still your feelings. And only you can determine how to deal with them.

We aren't robots around here, although I know that sometimes the vets can be perceived that way...

We feel, we remember, and we have learned how to better deal with our emotions (most of the time). And we are all still human.

Or...maybe it's because I like my butt and I just want to say the word a lot so people think about it...

Keep it up smartbutt...you are close to joining the "I know" club too...