Hi LF. Sorry to hear you were sick, I hope you’re feeling better now.
I too have had small gifts to W ignored or go unacknowledged. Nothing we can do about this but drop all expectations when we give them.
Originally Posted By: lostforever
for me I am just getting down and feel like everyone looks at me as if there is something wrong with me. Meaning I Should have moved on by now in there eyes. Why do you keep trying is what they say. I do not want to look like a loser that is out of control. I am not but it is hard sometimes.
Don’t allow others to make you feel bad about yourself for standing. Standing for ones marriage is a most noble task to undertake. Michele is clear in DR: No one else gets to decide when you should throw in the towel… that decision is yours alone. When you’re family/friends make you feel bad about yourself for standing, tell them thank you for your concern, but you are doing just fine. Stop discussing your sitch with them. If they bring it up, thank them for their concern and then change the subject. Only discuss it with people who support your decision to stand.
If your coach approved your text you should send it. You need some short of movement in your sitch one way or another.
Hang in there and continue on happily with your new life without wife.
Thank you for being here and letting me share what is going on.
Well first let me say i think i am finally getting over this flu. God I hope no one gets this. Takes forever to get over..
So, I did stop talking to anyone that does not support what i am doing. I have done the best I can with holding back. I can tell you now that I did send that text to W on monday and well like i told others 1 of 3 things will happen
1 she will just not say anything or do anything ( no idea what it means).
2 she will tell me that we will talk soon and then we dont.
3 she will bitch at me for something i said.
those are the standard replies. I do not understand it and well i may never understand. All I know is that there has been no movement good or bad in what is going on. Sometimes I feel that this is ok for me but times I say WFT why is she doing this and not trying to talk.
I'm doing the best I can with the card life has delt me. It is not easy and sometimes i think to myself this is going on so long that can this really be saved. I do love her and well sometimes i think why do i love her.
I am going to try to talk to my coach. I dont know what i should do now that i sent the text and got no reply....
I want to thank everyone here for putting up with me and supporting me with your honest replies..
