There are certainly other trainers who can help her with her back, and her overall health. You know, ones she hasn't slept with.
Consequences.
My wife had to QUIT her job at the gym, something she had studied HARD for her certification to get, and she had worked to build up her clientele. But it was something she needed to do in order to maintain no-contact and come back to the marriage. She was ANGRY about it . . . at first at me, but later admitted "I was angry at myself, that I didn't have more self-control and let myself get into a situation where I had to give that up, in order to work on our marriage."
Again, there are two separate issues here: BOUNDARIES and NO-CONTACT/TRANSPARENCY. Engine will not be in a position to insist upon the latter until such time as his wife asks the "What will it take?" question, so he can't forbid her from using this trainer. But he can damned sure stop PAYING for it -- and should.
Starsky
I agree, I certainly cannot demand that she stop using him but at $180 / week (yes that’s correct), she will not be able to afford it. When this all started, she wanted to become a PT. She order the materials three months ago and started studying last week when her best friend went back to work. It was not a priority until then oddly enough. Anyway, I was happy that she finally found something that she had a passion for. I fear that passion was actually to work for her current PT.
I may not have mentioned this before but in my travels to uncover this A, her new love of her life is sleeping with two other women. He also sees them weekly. He has three separate “clients” Tuesday through Thursday. I will not have the heart to deliver that news but I so badly want to. My concern is her health. If he is sleeping with that many, and the hotel clerk says that he is in often, what is he carrying related to STD’s? Oh, and he also has a wife at home….great guy. He was let go from the previous employment for similar behavior.
