Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

[Tallula]

Ok. Here is the deal. My suggestion. Yes, I did WAAAY to much for my H. Sunday, in anger, he yelled that he doesn't mind doing all those things for himself. You have no idea what will happen IF she lives in reality, leaves OM, stays with YOU, finds another OM...the possibilites are endless.

Make a list of things YOU don't like about you. That you do too much for her, messy, etc (not saying these are your things, just examples) Then come here, post 3 things you will do this week. Like:

1. organize bedroom closet
2. Read a book, instead of clean W's <insert thing you do>
3. Go to movie by myself, run a mile, do weight workout

Don't come on here and talk about what W is doing. Tell us what YOU are doing.

I also think you need to stop talking to MIL about your M. This could really backfire. You are trying to get her to help you convice your W you are the best choice.

It is so painful to watch your S self destruct. I'm doing it myself. H is alone. But this is not my problem. I can't fix it, only he can.