I can't stop crying thinking about devastated they will be.
You've got to be what the kids need you to be right now. Strong. Get the crying out of your system before talking to them. Emphasize to them that you BOTH love them very much and will always be there for them no matter what. Are both of you going to talk to them together? That would be best.
From my own experience, the kids took the news much better than I expected. They actually viewed it as something of an adventure, having two different homes with their own bedrooms in both. It wasn't until a few weeks later when the newness of W's place wore off that they started having problems with the sitch.
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I feel that this is a conversation that they will never forget. I never want to hurt them and this is the worst hurt they can experience right now.
I've never forgotten about that talk with my dad (mom was a WAW), the pain is still there. I always swore to my W that it would never happen to our kids, that I was committed 100% to making sure that never happened. It just never crossed my mind that she might not have the same commitment. Like my W, your H doesn't have that commitment. So you've got to play the hand you've been dealt. I know it's tough, but just accept it as reality and be the strong figure your kids need right now.
