Grrrr....I hate it when they take things and twist it around into our problem...
Let me have your take on this exchange:
(Now, let's think about this, if I have to let him know that I ahve soemone watching D, even if it's to pick her up early, sholdn't I know if he's staying out of town??)
H plans on going out of town for a sporting event this weekend (his 'friend' that he used to text with all the time jsut so happens to be a big fan of this sport as well)
Me: What time will you be dropping D off Saturday morning?
H: 8 or 9. Unless she wants to stay with grandparents
Me: I'd rather you just bring her home. Are you driving gas guzzler? (I inquire because he is constantly complaining about the gas his car uses)
H: Not sure yet.
Me: Are you staying all night? (don't you think this is a valid question as we do have a child and we are still married?)
H: Probably
Me: And you don't have plans as to who is driving? Do you even know who you are going with? (the other day when I asked what he was going to st louis for he quickly offered up this one guy or this other group of guys, I never had asked)
H: Nope. It's still several days away. Do you need the car?
Me. It's 2 days away.
H: Yes I do. I already told you I was going with. Would you like to send a surveillance camera along too?
Me: No you didn't, said maybe this guy or this group. Just inquiring, nothing wrong with that. You would do the same.
H: You've passed the line of just inquiring.
Me: Uh, nope. It's funny you still haven't answered.
H: And it's awful funny you won't shut up for someone just inquiring.
Me. No. Why wouldn't I ask who you were going with and if you were staying overnight?
H: Yes (guy) is going, not sure about meeting up with (group...)
H: Plus is getting on my nerves because I'm having to voice text while I'm trying to enjoy drive to sitters with D
Me: You didn't have to answer right now. You would have asked the same questions if I were going somewhere.
H: (somoething about maybe getting a hotel if they are too tired, etc)
H: No, I don't care where you're going The only reason I asked why you are going to (X)is because ou asked why I was going somewhere. You can go to Timbuktu, it's all good
Me. hahahah (oops my sarcastic side came out - obviosuly he does care after the weekend shenanigans and everything else)
H: What's so funny?
Me: I didn't ask who you were going to (x) with, you offered up (guy) or those guys. I hadn't asked.
Me: Really it's not a big deal. Why wouldn't we talk about where we are going and what we are doing? (to clarify, I meant out of town, I do not inquire about what/where/who thru the week!)
H: Are you really still trying to argue about what's this and What's that? I already told you what you asked for. It's all good.
H: I don't care enough to argue about who said what at this point in time.
Me: I'm not trying to argue about anything . Never was.
H: Well I'm sorry that your 50 questions are really annoying. It's not as tho I'm just sitting here doing nothing. You love text me wghile I'm trying to drive. I'm surprised you haven't killed me yet. Remember the drive to Chicago where you argued and yelled at me for 6 hours? Surprised I lived though that one
H: And if I wait answer you later you're going to be all saying "What's the matter, too busy to talk to me?"
I have not replied. He blew this WAY out of proportion. Did you ever see me ask anymore than who he was going with, if he was staying all night and what time he would drop D off?
Could he not just give straight up answers and be done?
He's the one that writes rants on texts putting himself in danger while he drives.
It's bee MONTHS since I made any sort of comment about him being too busy to text me etc.
Spewing. And I feel like he's doing it because he is lying about something.
Does it matter if she's going? Yes, because that means HE's lying. Don't go around accusing me of all sorts of things unfounded and then lie about something like this.
Sorry it's so long. I'm sure I could have handled this a little differently, let me know if you think I was all wrong.
I'm not going to answer anything today - I've already let him take up to much of my emitional wel being this morning.
