It will hurt you if she acts cold, it will hurt you if she sounds sad and maybe there's a chance and what is she thinking, it will hurt you. Do not be the first to bring it up.
Where you are at, and with how extremely cruel she's been (in order to get you to understand what she's trying to tell you), you would be completely justified to not give her a scrap of marital attention on this anniversary. Don't do it.
Have an idea of how you will respond - noncomittally and not pursuing - if SHE brings it up. Some ideas: "yes, it's still worth remembering," or "I know. I hope you are well." or "yes, it had me thinking too" and then CHANGE THE SUBJECT. Be ready to do that.
I think your goal needs to be getting through today with as little damage as possible. It's just a day. Don't think about it.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
