I know to continue my 180s and work on goals, but I feel like she has completely checked out. I don't feel like she'll ever see the edge of the fog.
Between her depression and pot use, recent but heavy user now, I think she found someone she relates to. He lost his wife and is also a smoker. At his house, there is no stress from the kids. She doesn't have to deal with their problems or my son's autism. It's easy to be there.
When she comes home, it's awkward because the kids barely want to speak to her. I tried to explain that if she came home more often that would change. They need to know she isn't picking him and his kids over them, but she doesn't get it or doesn't care right now.
I try to be pleasant. I make a few jokes around the kids, try not to be in the room with her, but it's only an hour or two a week. I guess if I just keep being pleasant, maybe she'll come more often.
She still has a lot of stuff in my house. She "officially" left 2 weeks ago today. I don't want to give her a final push out, but her stuff is scattered everywhere now. Should I suggest she get a Uhaul and just finish or wait it out? I could use the space for my daughter, but I feel like when she takes the rest of her stuff, that's it.
M: 38 H: 39 D: 20 S: 18 S: 16 T: 14 Y ILYBIDKIILWY/Affair 01/12/2013 Came Back 01/15/2013 Left Again 02/13/2013
