Sexless marriage. H Left. Now retrouvaille in 3wks

[adinva]

I so remember that cold panic in my stomach as the time approached to tell our kids. It is HORRIBLE. I'm so sorry.

I'm noticing a lot lately that the cliffs I think I'm peering over are points on a line. So for your kids, there's going to be an "after" that conversation. There are going to be questions that come up later, and feelings that surface later, and that conversation doesn't end up being an event so much as a point along this line of life, where your kids have ups and downs and learn to handle them all through your leadership and example.

Don't be afraid of their feelings. Know that their pain is magnifying your own pain, but theirs is just theirs. Don't make it bigger in your mind than it is.

My kids were angry and cried a little, and had very few questions, and later many more, but I was astonished at how this event didn't turn out to be the meteor crash I thought it would be for them. This is just reality, and it's sad, but you can't protect them from it even if you want to. It sounds like Teach them how to live through it.

Sorry, ((((((AM2012)))))