Hey buddy, I thought of you this morning while driving to work. Just wanted to let you know we're thinking about you today.
Glad your son is doing good with you. I'm sure you don't need me to say it but stay close to him during this time and keep reinforcing that he needs to respect his mom and that you understand how he feels. Think of it as a perfect opportunity to teach him some life lessons about being a man.
I liked Inside's analogy of the flight and putting on your own mask.
In my opinion I would treat tonight's Parent Evening with your W as a business deal. Don't expect any sympathy, don't expect her to say anything about anniversary and don't bring it up yourself. Just sit down, learn how he's doing at school, ask a few questions, have a little small talk if YOU are capable without getting hurt, and then drive off thinking how fortunate you are to have your son.
Stay strong today and during the next several.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are