BeingMe, I totally get what you are saying. They plotted to leave prior to the bomb. I also think that my H and many are not living in reality - my H really acts this is not a big deal for the children although all evidence is contrary to that. They have less to mourn in fantasy land.
Grr we do have a lot in common. The hours really did us in. My H career has been taking off at the same time as us having 2 kids back to back. It was too much. He didnt turn down work and I think took off 2 days each time a kid was born.
With our 2nd D birth, I told him to come home early so he came at 7P, she was born at the hospital at 8:17P.
The self care aspect of this program has really helped me. I know when I found these boards everyone is like GAL, GAL, GAL!!! But for me my schedule is busy enough I really needed to find more ways to go easy on myself
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
