Diving in with my eyes closed

[2chiquitos]

H n I had another big conversation last week after something happened. I made a financial decision (that wouldn't affect him) and he felt I had undermined him. I had NO idea my actions would come across this way but with much better communication from both our parts, we learned something new about each other.

In the conversation we talked about him moving back. We both saw this coming in another couple months. Other things were said but I no longer brought up the letter, although it's still in the back of my mind.

Yesterday at IC, she said that I'm obsessing about the letter. Live in the present. The time will come for him to write the letter. However she said, now that you will both be returning to MC have the discussions in front of MC about our difference of opinion when it comes to rebuilding trust, among other things. She said, notice how he gradually responds to conflict in front of the MC between the both of you. That is more telling than the letter.

Ok, backpedaling. H hates when we argue which is why he held so much resentment from the past, which is why he detached, etc. He still doesn't like to argue but we communicate a lot better. When we were going to MC last year, I avoided conflicts because he hated it. He especially hated doing it in front of someone else.

So when IC says notice the changes in his reaction to conflict, I can see how this is a sign of progress for him, and both of us.

We'll see how it goes.