Gonna be different now, (butterfly in hurricane).

[25yearsmlc]

Hello,
It takes time to register but I am getting your point.
When one is locked in the midst of adverse circumstances, it is difficult to see honestly what is going on all around.
Thank you to all for your patience and understanding, I gotta get through this ordeal somehow. Things are bad, whether they get worse is up to me.


Never forget that you control ONLY YOUR behavior...your reaction, your choices, etc.


I have minimized communication with W to the bare essentials as suggested here.
We only send emails every 2-3 days about the visits. (Well, she complained about his sleeves being wet, and my putting the diaper backwards, etc...)

do these comments warrant any response? I'd keep copies and give them to your L though, in case...

Question 1 : W said she would see about the driving (probably ask her L what to do), and since she hasn't said anything yet -because I do the driving- should I bring it up? To make her understand it is not ok, and I am just waiting for her to say something?
In case she says she won't drive, can I say something like : "I'll pick S up, if you want him back, you come get him"?

Go thru the lawyer for this. In the short run it'll cost you a bit more MAYBE, but if it gets through to her, then in the long run she'll cooperate more. And she'll know you are willing to spend a little money to have her keep her word.

Question 2 : Our marriage anniversary is coming up soon. What should I do? Card, nothing, flowers, letter, short email?

Debatable. The MOST you could do, IF anything, would be to send a card saying "it's still worth remembering" and include a photo of your son,

and or thank her for bringing him into the world with you. Nothing else shoud be said, NO "i love you" and nothing about the future.


I know the stove is hot, and only time will make it cool down, but still..

Have a good evening y'all,
Bruce