Wife says not in love; stays and acts happy

[Grizz]

I have to agree with everyone else. Stop snooping. It will totally eat you up from the inside. I definitely see your point though. I also questioned how I would know what she was doing if I didn't snoop. But, it will really drive you mad if you keep doing it. I still have the urge to snoop but I have to keep telling myself to not go through with it.

To comment on you two continuing to ML. My W and I also continue to do so. We are not nearly as often as before but we still do. Just my opinion, but I do not think it is too uncommon for the frequency of sex to increase prior to BD. The WAS is trying to compensate for whatever is missing in their life. Also (and I hate to think about this) but if the WAS is having an A, physical or emotional, then their sex drive is really ramped up because of the emotions and feelings they are having about the OP.

Don't read too much into ML. My W will be in our bed for a week, we will ML, then the next week she could be in the other room. We are currently in the valley of her being in the other room and having no contact. It may be different tomorrow. This initially really got to me. But as time has gone on I just try to enjoy it when it happens and try to not think too much about it afterwards. It does give us a connection whether she wants to admit it or not. I don't think it can hurt as long as I can keep my sanity.