And the Beat Goes On...

[tested metal]

Eric,

I don't have an expectation that this will show the ex the new me. Frankly I am trying to be a little supportive about her making a good decision about looking for a better job, because it would benefit D2 overall. I also believe that D2 having 2 parents around would be the most beneficial, but realize that it may have a cost, to myself. I will not do it if it will affect D2 negatively. I also will not do it if it increases my daycare payments as my finances are already tight.

Today, things may have changed the "playing course" dramatically as ex called me crying and informing me that she had just been fired from her job because her ex (who she works with and she dumped) reported her to corporate because she "misplaced" his payroll check. She answered corporate's call with the answer that ex was vindictive because of being dumped and that the misplacement was a mistake. Corporate didn't care and fired her. she also lives with ex, so now she has to move immediately.

Now she has friends (who I know and are good people), who live in the town 70 miles away, that have a spare room for her and D2 and would take care of D2 while Ex works. Ex has a part time minimum wage job lined and would look for a better job in the meantime.

I have noticed that this is a pattern for her though of making impulsive decisions that bite her in the butt later. Now they are affecting D2 with not having a permanent place to live and possibly Ex not affording Daycare.

1. as for transportation We would meet in the town in between and switch there. Car time for D2 would be 1 hr a week tops.

2. We would work out stipulations for parties.
3. As for work schedule it would not impact it at all.

The only thing that it would do is put a 3 yr timetable for me to move to the same town if I want 50/50 to continue as D2 will be in school by that time and I know by then she should have at least a permanent town to live in.

I will talk to a therapist about this immediately and a lawyer. Ex reported that she has talked to a child therapist and says that the 50/50 is not healthy even in town, but I have had friends that are therapist that think that is not necessarily the case.


Thanks for the responses! I look forward to more discussion as I feel really conflicted and confused right now on the best possible course of action to take.