Thanks for sharing Denver (and others). To me, it seems like a natural cycle. We try and try to get our S's back on board, we work on ourselves and tackle our demons, and eventually, we get to a point where we see our S and say "Hey, I still want this M to work...but you're going to have to make some changes too."
For me, I've known all along that W was going to have to severe communication with OM completely before I would be in it for the long haul, but I've been sitting around waiting for her to want to work on the M before forcing the issue. Lately, I've been really thinking of just drawing a hardline and stop screwing with her until she decides one way or the other. We're only a few months from D at this point, and she's been content to keep me in limbo up til now.
