Denver, I've made similar comments in threads regarding my own sitch. It's interesting that while the WAS rewrites history to where they remember nothing but the bad in the M, the LBS does the opposite- we rewrite history to remember nothing but the good about the WAS. I've read many sitches in piecing where the WAS returns and suddenly the LBS has to struggle with things that they completely suppressed while trying to draw the WAS back- mainly the WAS's faults. Few marriages fall apart because one spouse did everything right while the other did everything wrong. Most fall apart because both spouses quit working on the R. DB'ing rightly focuses us on correcting what we were doing wrong in the M, but we have to set aside what our spouse did wrong and if reconciling happens then all those issues come bubbling back up again. In DB'ing we bring ourselves much closer to being a perfect spouse, but if the WAS comes back, guess what, they weren't DBing at all while they were gone, LOL!
Anyway, yours is great input from someone in piecing!
