She gave us 4 choices which included reconciliation which the W didn’t want, trial separation, legal separation, or living parallel lives in the same house. She wanted us to come back. My W didn’t want to go back and has decided for herself that she wants a parallel life. Pretty good gig if you can get it. Have weekly sex in your hotel with your trainer, but what you want and party to all hours of the night.
So glad to hear that that won't be one of the options that's OK with YOU then, Engine.
The framework really needs to come down to "Leave the family (divorce) if that's what you want to do, or end your affair, come back and work on the marriage with me, and you will find me willing to address any and all issues -- including my own contributions to our marital problems. But the status quo -- having an open marriage -- doesn't work for me."
