This is actually sonething my councilor and I spoke about last night. While I take full responcibility for my actions, H has 50% in this too. I am changing the things within myself that I see as problems. Many match with his complaints, some things are simply not my responcibility. I will not take that on. I don't say this in an angry way, it's simply the truth. H is very angry. He blames me for his A one minute, himself the next.
I say this so that I hold my head high and set boundaries when my H is being hurtful. If I tried to take on all the blame, my guilt would allow me to accept the abuse with my tail between my legs. We are separated. It's a good thing. Space! The only way this M will work Is for the both of us to work hard. Bit i dont want my old M. I have no idea how long I'll stand, but I'm standing here now. I
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
