She has actually said, "can't you just let me vent and tell you something without trying to fix it.
I think most women (all that I know about)just want their H to listen as she vents. My DIL use to go home and vent about work, and my S would get so mad at her co-workers he'd want to go wipe the place out. I finally got him to realize she wasn't looking for an answer from him. She just needed him to hear her and be interested in what she was telling him.
If men could realize this detail about women, I think it would make a difference. Unless she actually asks for your assistance, then just support how she feels. That's another key point, don't criticize how she feels about it. Always let her know you are in her corner, b/c that's what she needs.
I know it gets tiring to hear a S vent about the job, but at least she's talking to you about it. That could open the door for other conversations.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
