^^^ Good advice, I suggest you take it. You were probably reading my posts in terms of alleviation of WAS/MLC guilt. In the worst case, it is validation for the S's leaving, in the best worst case, it starts to enter the WAS head that maybe the LBS loves me after all.
But that can't be true, can it? I mean WAS left because LBS was awful and not the person he/she fell in love with and doesn't love me and I don't love LBS...I care about them, sure, but I didn't love them for a long time (which changes with each convo).
So, my point is, some WAS's understand this LBS love and begin to realize that maybe, just maybe, they were at fault too, and some never ever do. Even if they do realize, no guarantee they are ever coming back, but it is possible to build a relationship based on understanding and friendship
MY H and I are switching spaces in a couple of weeks and he said if I wanted to pick someone up and take them back to his place, I could (just to burn the sheets... ;P ) He also texted right after "I know, I know, you are not ready..."
One of these days Alice....it is very hard to maintain where we are, especially since I know my H has GF, has emotional and physical support, not from me. The best I can do is remain a friend, practice my DBing and move forward. The minute you stop moving though, is the minute you gotta take a long hard look at where you want to go
