Blake, I just read through your entire thread. My W has said very similar things about me that your W stated. Sh has no privacy ( Facebook and email), I am definitely a " fixer". She has actually said, "can't you just let me vent and tell you something without trying to fix it. You can't fix everything", and I am also not the same person that I was prior to my health scare 5 years ago. My wife is also very angry at times. Angry over her work situation, over money issues, not being able to get a new car.
I have gained many things from your sitch. Primarily to give her space and to stop pouting around her. Acting as if I am happy is the hardest freaking thing though It drives me crazy!
I will keep following along. Good luck. Hopefully we can learn some things from each other as we go along.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.