Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[needgrace]

hi JJ,

i am close to your sitch in that my D is almost done and there is little that ties me to W now. for me, i have been using my DB skills and other things i have gathered along the way to build a new life and to be ready for my next R. there were mistakes i made and i have hopefully learned from them and i have also learned that i need to make myself happy... not depend on my R for that. i think the biggest thing i have learned is to accept what is and to let go... so for now i am letting go, allowing myself to grieve but not allowing my grief to stop me from living.

as far as my W, though we have minimal contact... she knows the heart and soul of me from our M and if she gets past the anger and fear...she may remember that and miss it.. or she may not, she may have found the R of her dreams, and if so, while it hurts, i do want her to be happy..

in some ways, though i have lost my M, i feel as if i have saved myself. i don't think there is much else that could have given me so much growth..

not sure if that is what you are asking, JJ... but that is what works for me.