I see now that I was not the sole cause of the breakdown in our M. I put W on a pedestal during my sitch, and I think that I really minimized her flaws. I love her to death, but she is not perfect and she is difficult to get along with at times. I TOTALLY put those things out of my mind during my S.
But don't we kinda have to do this if we want to save the M, since we are the only one working on it and our spouse is not interested AT ALL? (well, maybe not the pedestal so much, but definitely the putting their flaws out of our minds thing)
Do you see your marriage surviving if you DIDN'T do as you posted above?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
