Wife said she was done!

[Maritimer]

Thanks for the reassurances, Sandi2, AnotherStander, bblake1968, QueenOhHearts, MrBond, and others who took the time to post. It means lot that other people that have been through similar situations give hope to strangers, Its a very noble trait.

I believe & am successfully detaching from my wife. Her being not very nice to me and showing lack of respect to me makes me wonder if I really want to be with a woman who treats me that way. I am kinda looking forward to living by myself and focusing on being a better person. I sacrificed a lot for my family and while it will hurt not to be with them all the time, I can make the best of the situation to become the person I always wanted to be. Maybe it’s the high part of the roller-coaster right now. Could it be the fact that I have been sober for 3 months, lost a bunch of weight, living with a positive attitude, enjoying being more productive around the house, reading self-help books, doing more activities with my boys and my dog? Donno but it seems to be working.

For us to successfully get back together it would take effort from the both of us. She is no ware near that point right now. When/if she does I know I have the correct tools to be able to work on our relationship successfully. She is all excited to buy a new house and to me she is getting in too deep with a high mortgage, She is oblivious to all the extra cost associated with buying a bigger home and I can see that she will have trouble making ends meet. All I can do is be prepared to be there for them if/when the deck of card come crashing down.

Funny that all her divorced, single friends are encouraging this and all my married stable friends think that she is making a huge error in judgment. Only time will tell.