My wife is in an EA, but an odd one. She is infatuated like a teen girl in her “friend” who she met in the gym and happens to work in the hospital 1-2 days/week where she works. I told her I could not tolerate this friendship and that she had to either end it or leave. She stayed, but I now know that she has continued the friendship behind my back. He has a girlfriend, so I’m not sure what his interest is. But my wife is definitely pursuing him.
My question is what to do?
1. Should I ignore it, and pretend I don’t know and let her continue? It eats me up, but we’re living together, and I think the chances of working through this are better together than if I kick her out. Also, I have my 3 girls to consider, and I hate the idea of a shared custody during a separation.
2. When I know she is with him, should I confront her when she comes home and kick her out? I don’t think I would feel any better, but at least I would keep my pride intact. I’m not sure how she would react. She could decide to leave, or it could shock her into some other action.
I’m really conflicted on what to do concerning this. Originally her relationship with this guy was a friendship with infatuation on her side. Now, I would say it is an EA since she has shared more and more with him. It is not physical as far as I know, but that could always change. He has a girlfriend, but that might not stop anything.
