We separated in Nov two days prior to the birth of D.
WOW!! So sorry to hear that, I really don't understand how any husband could leave around the time a baby is being born when the woman needs as much help and support as possible. Seems like an incredibly selfish thing to do.
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Can it be done? With our limited phone and text interaction about work and kids?
It's definitely a challenge when distance is involved, but stick with DB'ing principals and there may be a chance.
Originally Posted By: JoyPeaceNLove
Hi WFM, thus far I've tried to make our interactions as smooth and positive as possible--acting "as if". Also, I do try to keep it short and sweet. It's been working to my benefit as I'm seeing that he has been more interested, engaging in more personal conversations.
Good, just keep it up! Don't be rude or cold, but do act like you're preoccupied. Don't always answer when he calls. Don't always respond right away when he texts or emails.
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The old JPnL would be outraged and confronted him, but this was the time to shine and act "as if" I had no clue and be pleasant, upbeat, and funny.
That's great, but the point isn't to act like you don't have a clue, it is to act like you know EXACTLY what is going on but you're not letting it get to you because you're moving on with or without him.
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After he left, I texted him and thanked him for hanging with the kids. Our exchanges were funny and upbeat!
Great! Now keep that up, don't backslide by asking about the M! Keep ALL talk with him light and fluffy!
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GAL, detaching and finding inspiration has really given me the confidence I need to be the real JPnL...the attractive, independent, beautiful woman I am. I also see the physical distance working to my advantage because I truly can detach and be my own person. I hope I can keep it up!
Excellent, sounds like you're doing quite well, good job!
