Hi T! Following along, even if I don't always get a chance to comment or post...
I was thinking about your wife being jealous of the mom that she saw. To me, that epitomizes that "teenage" thinking of competition and jealousy. I thought it was great that she could verbalize what she was thinking, that she recognized her feelings.
It also goes back to what we have discussed before - it seems they want/need validation about their attractiveness from someone other than their spouse. Which may be tough for us to understand, since we are thinking the exact opposite... We would like that validation from our spouse.
My posse tells me all the time, you could get any guy you want! Ummm, that's not the point. There's only one guy I'm interested in right now (even if he is an alien pod person)!
I think it's good you did a little "lite" flirting, nothing that makes her feel pressured to return the feeling, yet lets her know you still think of her that way.
We can never assume anything, right?
Continue to do a great job at listening without judgement. Unconditional love.
I remember when H and I had a big blowout last March. I sifted through the spew after the fact, and found some interesting insights that I can relate to your sitch...
- he said he wanted to be around people who made him feel good about himself
- he said he wanted to be around people who wouldn't judge him
Days later, upset that the boys wanted me, he told me with tears in his eyes "I just want to be loved."
Some things to think about
Continue on your path, you inspire each of us to be the best we can be and love our spouses the best that we can, even if they don't appreciate it right now.
Btw, I can totally picture you as a Robert Downey Jr. type Sherlock Holmes (who also meal plans and cooks )
Keep up the awesome work!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
