Since I still have access to her email, I saw that on the same day she is “missing me” she wrote to her friend that she is still thinking about how she can leave the marriage.
Quit snooping!!! First, whatever she's writing to friends may or may not reflect what she really feels. She's in turmoil and when she writes she's probably trying different things on to see how she feels about them. Second, if she finds out you're snooping (and it's very likely she will if you keep it up) then it's going to put you in a very bad light.
Originally Posted By: SailingAlone
Our cell phones are on the same account, and I can see when she calls, texts, etc. I checked, and I can see that she has been texting friends as late as 3:00 am and the other day she must have woke up early because there were texts from about 5:00 am.
Seriously, STOP that!
Originally Posted By: SailingAlone
I've noticed something about intimacy, and wonder if this is common with others. We continue to ML and are intimate in bed with both of us initiating. For example, this morning soon after waking up, my wife rolled closer and put her arm around me and her head on my shoulder. Yet, during the day, she is more distant and tends to avoid intimacy.
Yeah, like yours and Grizz's, my W was also like this before she moved out. She would be fully into ML as much as before BD, maybe even more. But outside of ML she wouldn't even hug or kiss me. Don't try to figure it out, you can't. Just know that continuing to ML doesn't necessarily mean there's a turnaround in the M anytime soon. It's OK to keep doing it if it's not messing you up emotionally, just don't have any expectations about what it means.
