She stated several times that she was very glad that I asked her out to dinner (she apparently thought I was still mad at her).
That's good, you want her to feel no pressure. You want her to feel relaxed around you, like you can talk as friends.
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She also stated without any prodding from me that she was not going to be ready to see anyone else for quite a while. I found this odd because I assumed she was seeing someone based on the condom I found and the fact that she was disappearing for entire weekends.
She could very well be lying, trying to keep you on the hook while she explores other options.
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Would she have gone out of her way to make this statement, if she was seeing someone?
I'm not saying she's definitely in an affair, but one thing all people involved in affairs have in common- they are all liars.
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She followed that up by saying to me that she is not ready to hear about anyone that I am seeing and I should just keep it to myself.
A good response to that would be "I'm still thinking things through." You don't want her to think that you're waiting indefinitely for her because she'll have no incentive to return, you'll always be plan B. But you don't want to make it sound like you're sleeping around either. Just leave it as a question mark in her head.
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she had forgotten what a good friend I was too her.
Excellent!
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I'll keep doing what I'm doing, but if any one has any advice, I'd appreciate hearing it.
Just keep doing what you're doing. She may want to remain friends for a long time (months) before thinking about reconciling, so be patient. Read Sandi's 180 tips as much as you need to to remind yourself what not to do!
