Confused by WAS

[DaddyLongShanks]

Longshanks, I do need to work on myself more. I also agree that a "friend" would not treat me the way she has recently. I posted earlier that I am not sure if I trust my W. there was alot more to this but the point is if you don't have trust then you can't have a M or friendship.
Also, not sure if you were just speaking in generalities but my W has not cheated (that I know of. No evidence of it and I have searched). Just wanted to clear that up since the last part of your post was eluding to affairs/cheating.
I do appreciate your insight and input. Thank you for posting.

Yes, thanks. I been there and done that. I was trying to be simple so you could get your mind to detach.

"Married Man's Sex Life Primer" by Athol Kay , is an approach of building and maintaining sexual attraction within existing relationships. I think this is good info for many of us.

[Grizz]

I too am quite amazed at how fast and how angry my W became. For a span of
2-3 months she really really disliked me. That anger has definitely lessened with time but her desire to leave still seems as strong as ever.

I do need to find a way to get over the trust thing. If I don't, then there really is no reason for me to fight for our M. I get stupid over this stuff. Like today, she took our laptop to work with her. My first thought went straight to why would she do that? Is there something on there she does not want me to see? She never takes the laptop with her. This is soooo unhealthy for me. But that is where I go. I think I need a real 2x4 against my head.

Blake, I am going to go back and read through your history. I can't imagine my W being here 2 years down the road. I am interested to see if there are many similarities between our wives. And by the way, I used to love the song "Everything About You".

[Verum]

Grizz, my wife was angry with me and disrespected me prior to the BD. Actually since BD we have constructed a cordial relationship -- I think doing my 180's, GAL, and distancing has helped in that regard.