Agree with Bug. You might want to ask these friends to stop sharing this sort of intel with you. Then again, maybe not... I also believe we learn things as we need to so...
So what were the consequences of the boundary of not seeing other people? How did that boundary help you?
Was there more to it than that?
Please explain more and I will elaborate when im not on a phone with autocorrect that wants to put words in that make no freakin sense.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox