So he's been home more but now I keep thinking why? What was he doing that he wasn't home and suddenly he is? I guess it shouldn't matter at this point but it still bothers me. My therapist told me yesterday that I am stuck and need to find a way to become unstuck. I just have this awful feeling that when I am finally ready to move on he will come around again. I want to move ahead after all that he has done to me. I wanted to forgive and move on for so long and now I just want to move on. Forgiving has become harder. He no longer calls me names, etc. but how do I get past all the lying and running around?
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
tiredndrained, I am not suggesting a separation, yet I will tell you that when my W and I separated it did help, a lot. Her not being at home hurts and I miss her so much AND we dont fight nearly as much. It gave me space I need so that I can breathe and not focus on her quit as much. I think it has helped her a lot also. There are many positives and negatives, but for us it has helped. I honestly think for us it was needed. One positive for you is that you would not know when H leaves and comes home, that sounds so stressful. As I said, I am not suggesting a S, but it has helped mt sitch. Good luck and my prays are with you.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Thank you so much jp787...I agree with you entirely. I have been waiting until he gets a job to leave or get him to leave. I realize I can probably kick him out based on everything I have been through but I am trying to make it as stress free for the kids as possible. Also, we are in such a poor financial situation right now (because of him) I'm not sure I can afford an attorney. I've asked him to leave but until he gets a job he has made it clear he isn't moving anywhere. I would much rather be on my own with the kids at this point. I can't take the coming and going any longer. It is turning the house upside down and making life so stressful.
He has caused so much damage and upset that a seperation would be good for all of us.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
