OK, that's what I thought. We all get bogged down in our thinking sometimes. And unfortunately I too often jump to this: He's not been a successful parent, how would he know what it takes? I apologize for that reactive statement.
I understand what you're trying to do because I am working on more co-parenting with my H.
What do you need from your H? Have you told him that?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
