About the "other" man. Unless your friend (and I question that, sounds like a busybody) saw them having sex, doesn't mean a thing. Maybe she was flirting, maybe he was flirting. So what? I see people advising here regularly that the LBS go out and flirt to help their self-esteem. I don't get that but the point is it doesn't have to mean anything unless you give it meaning.

Don't make this about what she's done to you, or what she might do to you. Make this about how you can have a good life, no matter what the outcome.

This, Doing things as a complete family has always been one of the most important parts of my life. has been a theme around here this week. Read some of busting's thread, you are not alone in this.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss