The ones who never stop focusing on the goal of "saving their marriage" never get past it to the point of doing the things that really might save their marriage. They're not tactics or action items, they're whole life changes and they are hard and gradual and painful and so much more meaningful in the long run than "what do I say when he says x" and "how should I behave when he does y." I'm biased but I don't think you should discount the possibility that there are more important goals for you right now than saving your marriage. It's hard to see that at first.
Wow adinva this really made me think and I am still trying to save my marriage, not change me...
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
