Took kids out to dog training tonight and we had been home about 30 mins when the home phone rang. It was stbx and D17 answered. It was 9.15pm.
He launched into a tirade almost immediately about what she had done at the car park two weeks ago (she had told OW that she no longer had a car to learn to drive in because OW was driving it around town. D17 told OW to drive her own car; she didn't need ours as well when we had been left with no car).
Anyway, stbx was insisting that D17 apologise and D17 was telling him she would not. Stbx was shouting (I could hear him). It sounded like 2 teenagers having a "You're wrong" / "No, You are" endless exchange.
D17 stood her ground. Then he told her that her grandfather had cancer.
Apparently stbx's father has been diagnosed with throat cancer and commenced chemo today. Following 6 weeks of treatment, he will have surgery. D17 was distressed and stbx asked her to put S14 on the line.
As usual, S14 was less than interested in talking to stbx - more so tonight as he was rushing to do his homework and study for a chem test tomorrow. He ended the call almost straight away.
Ten mins later and the phone rings again. This time stbx asks to speak to me. I am told:
"If you don't answer my email about the D papers, it will be detrimental to you"
I was pretty much stunned and couldn't think of what to say.
He ended up saying "Hello? Hello?" to establish that i was still on the line. In the end I just said "OK, [name]. I asked if his father was going to be Ok and he told me that was none of my business. I gave up and said "Bye" and rang off.
Ten mins later, the phone rings again. Guess who?, this time asking to speak to S14 again. He starts off the call with "Your grandpa has cancer"
S14 flips out and asks if he is dying. Stbx provides some detail and says the prognosis is good. S14 says he doesn't understand....
Stbx then changes the topic (I was listening, as he was talking so loudly, I could hear from where I was sitting next to S14) to say that S14 doesn't sound like he wants to talk to him when he rings.
S14 says: "I don't".
Stbx: "I won't bother you again"
S14: "OK"
Stbx: "Why don't you want to talk to me? You need to talk about why you feel that way"
S14 "I''m trying to study for a test. I have homework to do and it's late. I'll call you another time, but not now".
This really is a circus. A very sad one, but a circus nonetheless.
Now stbx's frenzied calls and emails over the last week start to make more sense.
Although, they are still filled with really weird stuff. Like today, when he emailed that because i hadn't replied to his latest email, he could "no longer continue to support me".
But he stopped paying any support 2 and a half weeks ago.
