There is a theory that they do sometimes indeed want to get caught, to have someone else "make" them change, because they can't do it themselves, at least easily, OR to prove how "bad" they are and should be tossed aside so they can continue their self-destruction....this is where the patience from us is required, to NOT be the one to force them, but to let them figure it out, and do the hard work, themselves...man, it is difficult, yes?
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Having a spirit of forgiveness and compassion towards H has been keeping me strong. I think I would completely crumble if I wasn't trying my best to be understanding and trying not to focus on how I have been wronged. This experience has made me more compassionate not only towards him, but others. I don't know if I will ever have a relationship with H again, but I feel like I am being put through the fire, and I'm becoming a better person for it.
Do remember this ^^^^, always...you are a gem.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
