Confused by WAS

[Grizz]

Wow guys! I can't thank you all enough for the amount of responses I have received recently.

Sandi you are correct. My W had her BEST friend question her actions and W essentially told her she would appreciate not discussing the sitch any further and that it was none of her business.

Blake, it is encouraging to read that your sitch is improving. I really do need to get it through my thick skull to believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. All of the snooping, wondering, mind reading does wear me out. It stresses me to no end. I have got to figure out a way to stop it.

Sucker punch, you are right. Why would she talk to someone who didnt agree with her? Deep down, I guess I realize this but it just hurts.

Sailing, my W has told many more people than I have. I know how you feel. Every time I hear she has told someone else, it really upsets me. Not sure why it matters though.

Verygrateful, this IS driving me crazy. I agree that the result is just like snooping. I do need to focus on myself.

On to today: I had a good day at work today. I was upbeat and feeling good. W texted me about being called for a job interview. I am truly happy for her about this but on the flip side, her not having a good job is one of the main reasons that she has not left yet but not the only reason (if I can believe that). Those are her words not mine. She is miserable over her current working situation and has been for a long time. I think this is part of our demise.
I was still feeling good until I got home. She was telling me about how awful work is and how she had to get out. I felt so bad for her. I just stared at her thinking how bad I just wanted to hold her and how much I love her. Now I am back to feeling sorry for myself again. It is so hard to be around her and look her in the face. I just love her.