My sister gave me some advice. Said to talk to him differently tonight. Talk about the issues we have in a different way. So for instance the book case. Suggest in a pleasant way that I was thinking if h likes it so much how about putting it downstairs and how about we work on it together this weekend? Maybe get take out and start decluttering. She said you could tell h to think about it. If he's negative I can say ok I see and just keep track of his willingness to do anything. This will be telling. I thought it was a good idea. If he keeps knocking everything I guess he's not serious.
