it's not that I think Tad's not allowed or healthy to be angry.
I just wonder, "why NOW??" What did his ex wife do, in that moment or example, to trigger or warrant any anger in Tad? To me, Nothing.
But he's not dealing with "today's" problems. He's dealing with a ton of bottled up stuff.
Detaching would solve 90% of his issues.
But as You, Tad, say, you are afraid of being done.
I have fear too. I Fear you won't answer my/Eric's questions! But here they go anyhow..
Just 3 tiny weensy, but maybe super important, questions...
1) what would "being done" with her, (i.e., letting go) look like to you?
2) If you stopped attaching your present day happiness to HER choices, (past/present or future), what's the worst that could happen?
3) What do you truly believe your sons are learning from you, as you are now?
It's been frustrating to see you stuck so long, I fully admit that. But there's something in you that I believe in, some part of you that wants to be happier than you are now.
Some part of you that I hope takes over and starts leading the way.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
