Boundaries should be about YOU -- "I will not live in an open marriage." It's then up to the other person to decide what to DO with that information you've now shared with them, lovingly and firmly. [/i]
This is what I think so many people miss. It's about YOU. I refused to live in an open marriage. He was on the couch. He "ended it", decided to move back into the bedroom. Then I see he is still FB friends and was being secretive with his phone. I calmly said, "I can't work on this M without the defriend and access to your phone."
What was I losing? Trying to piece together am M built on lies? No thanks. Let's take a time out, see where it shakes out. I mean, it's easier said than done, but I don't regret my setting boundaries. Not at all.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
