Exactly! That man is so all over the place, I just had to calmly speak my truth, for me. It wasn't to get him to do anything. It was so I could look at myself in the mirror. I just said, here is what I need or we need to S. He flipped out at first, that's when he said I was controlling. Later he admitted that, of course it isn't controlling and he wants to be able to do those things, but he can't. Whatever. I believe he would have continued to be all over the place at our house and I would be crazy and there we would be. Both crazy. Not moving. This way, I can work on me, he can do whatever the heck he is doing.
It was less scary when I knew in my heart that I had to be true to me. For me.
Now the work is keeping his crazy from pervading my thinking. I had some backslides this weekend. Sobbed infront of him. I really hate being pregnant! If only he had told me 2 weeks earlier. Yeah.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D