Good for you!! See how setting a boundary doesn't have the disasterous effect you imagine. But more importantly, see how you felt about you!

I am so sorry this happened, it must hurt. But see how all your mind reading into why she stays so short with OM or talking with you why she is there is so pointless? She was planning on taking your D around him. She just said he isn't going anywhere anytime. Now, who the heck knows if that is true or not. She was just mad you didn't roll over and allow her to do whatever she wanted.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D