So I don't have any new stuff to report to Laurie. Turns out my W was only at OM's for one night because he was actually going to be in our town today.
She called me to ask about D3 tuition check and then said she is picking up D3 and heading to her best girlfriend's house. So I asked her who is there and she said her friend (OM's sister in law), her husband, the OM, and the parents of OM.
I said ABSOLUTELY NOT! I am leaving work now to go pickup D3 myself. She is not going with you to hang out with OM. W tried to tell me it was so D3 could play with her friends daughter who is D2 and is my D play buddy sometimes.
She was arguing that OM is there at his brothers house only to install some lights and some fans and he will not even have time to hang out with her and D3. So i told her why do you have to take D3 there TODAY if its not so he can see her or vice versa? You have the chance to go to your friends house ANY day but you don't! You want to take her there today?
Then she said I haven't been able to spend any time with D3 since day before yesterday, so I told her you have the chance to pick her up now from school and spend the rest of the evening with her. It is up to you if you want to take that opportunity.
I stated this calmly and with but but firmly. I told her you should respect my wishes as the father of the child, just like I am respecting your wishes. I also told her I think it is better you do not introduce D3 to anyone you are dating until it is serious enough, and that I would do the same. She said that I will need to get over it at some point because OM is not going anywhere, and I said I really didn't have to, but if it was to get serious enough I would think about it. <--is that one too much?
So in the end she said "Are you going to pick up D3 when school is up?". I said "Yes I am. and then I'm going to take her to the park to play". she said OK then, and we said our good byes and hung up.
Less than 1 minute later, I get a message that says "Nevermind. I am picking up D3. I'm not going over there." then 5 minutes later "I will go after D3 is in bed". I still have not answered those last two messages.
I stood up to her and didn't bow down with my boundary. She is NOT to spend time with OM and that is that. I am proud of myself. And she just said "OK" when normally she would argue much more. I expected her to say "She is my daughter too and I can take her wherever I want" but she didn't.
Feels good.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
