I guess the thing that gets me is that the only people that she discusses our sitch with are ones that are divorced or currently going through a D. She has totally shut out people who are promarriage. She has actually said that she wants to talk to people who will be "on her side". Really? She just wants a bunch of "yes men". That is what bothers me. I would like to apologize though for getting upset last night but I guess I should just let it go.
Grizz,
You're still pretty early in the game; you're W has a LONG head start with where she is. It took me several months to get to the point where I realized all of the energy I was burning on snooping, wondering, searching and worrying was just wasted energy.
It took me about three weeks to break that habit, and once I did my life got infinitely better. I'm not saying I don't wonder every now and then, because I do. However, I've trained myself break that off pretty quick and find something else to do.
You are much luckier than I was - you found out about DB'ing much quicker than I did - which really puts you in a better place than I was at the same point. Remember the saying: believe none of what you hear and only 50% of what you see. I can't emphasize that enough...
