T, You do not want to be too assertive when suggesting that the two of you get together this evening. If you go gung ho and be assertive about sitting down tonight...it may very well scare her back into her shell. She needs to have control and/or option of whether she wants to sit down and discuss it w/you...that's why I made the suggestion the way I did to you earlier.
Tread lightly because she is very fragile right now. She is like a fine piece of china and you do not want to shatter her inner self. She needs to have the freedom and feel safe in expressing her concerns out loud to you and if you slam dunk her w/assertiveness, she will shut down. You've come too far to change your course now. Stay the course of being a good listener, a gentle and patient soul. Please be patient! She is starting to open up more and more and she needs to feel safe.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
